We train people how to treat us. We really do.

Take me for example... 

I learned early on in life that a successful survival strategy was to please my parents.

So, later in life I continued to be a people-pleaser and trained people that I would be there for them - which then became our un-written, un-spoken un-wholesome contract.

Then, when something terrible happened to me and I needed help, they were not there or not there in the way I “expected them to be.”

Result:  I moved on to train the next person not to be there for me.

Question:  How do you train people in your life to be or not be with you?

Insight:  Retraining them is a “B____” and quite necessary for you and them.